The art of making friends as an adult

 I imagine you are here looking for a "How to make friends as an adult when you don't really leave your house because of an ongoing pandemic". Well, I can relate, I actually am wondering that myself.

It's true almost all of us will grow apart from our school/college/university friends. Some people have the opportunity to make work friends but how many of those turn into real friendships anyway? You'd be lucky. If that wasn't already hard enough, I left my hometown, the country, then another country... Sure, throw the pandemic on top of that! So I'm back to square one in some ways. The only people I know here are my husband and his family, a few of his friends who I've met literally once and one friend that was my roommate in Australia back in 2019. 

So, I found myself googling "How to make friends when you're an adult, watching classes online, freelancing, in a country you just arrived in - and whose language you're barely a beginner in -, and don't really leave the house because you're an introvert?". Well good luck finding that.

And the hardest part is: Do I actually want more friends? Most of the time I'm happy with talking and going around with my husband, and texting my other two friends every once in a while (Lia and Jeovane, I'm looking at you). But there's always that little voice (sometimes I literally hear from people, other times it's myself wondering) asking me if I should actually make more friends. And no, I don't mean a whole football field worth of people. I'm talking about one, two people tops. Someone I can go shopping with or go to a café to do Basic Girl™ stuff while hubby is at work.

So I got excited with the thought and googled "friend tinder" (and it's actually a thing, go look), installed the app, set my profile and... Nothing, I was about to set my profile to visible and I panicked. 

     "Will I be able to keep up with a new person?

         "Am I mentally prepared to introduce myself and learn about someone new?"

            "What if I don't like them? What if they don't like me? Or worse, pretend to like me?"

And the worst one:

     "Will I have to go outside many times to meet them....?"

So I'm keeping the app deactivated for now while I figure out how I actually feel about it. Will update. In the meanwhile, here I am talking to myself but finally putting it on "paper".